Helping couples heal and reconnect

The way you relate to your partner and other family members is at the heart of your well-being. You don’t need thousands of studies to prove this. But acting on this premise, however, is not that simple.


Your intimate relationships expose your vulnerabilities. This includes such aspects as past wounds, longings, dreams,  various fears such as abandonment, rejection, shame, betrayal, failure, exploitation, and more.  Successfully coping with these vulnerabilities is the main challenge faced when it comes to your love life.

Make sure that your intimate partner is not a source of ‘threat’ – whether imagined or real – but a source of support and both your lives will flourish.  Ultimately, the relationship becomes the ‘lab’ that helps you both heal and grow.

The Challenge

A relationship thrives when both partners feel connected and secure. But when there are hurts, doubts, insecurities, and disconnection, the relationship flounders. The emotional tone of your interactions is unpleasant.  You both end up feeling increasingly vulnerable and you react with anger, fear, or avoidance.

Your relationship is on the downward spiral and requires your attention!

What studies conducted over the last three decades have indicated, is that to create a satisfying relationship, you need to ‘do’ vulnerability right. That means expressing your needs and emotional hurts in constructive and authentic ways. Your vulnerability then turns into your source of power!  It nourishes closeness and makes your partner more likely to respond to your needs and wants.

Doing it ‘right’ will be the main portion of our counseling work.

The other portion focusses on the educational and coaching aspects:  you will learn about relationships and develop ways to strengthen your connection and friendship. It is very much like adding credits to your emotional bank account in order to help you better cope with your next hardship.  With a secure connection and pleasanter feelings, the relationship becomes more resilient.

My blog contains further tips and ideas to help people flourish.

Need to clarify or inquire more before booking? Feel  free to call me or send a message. I generally respond within a few hours.
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Guy (Hagai) Avisar

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