On being wise (final part)

In my last blog post, I described two ways for acting wisely: to reflect before acting and to examine a situation from various perspectives. In this final part I will add another two ways in which wise people tend to act. Get real and pragmatic The wise are flexible. They are willing to replace one […]

ON BEING WISE – 2

Part 2 We learnt in Part 1 of ‘On Being Wise’ that wisdom is ultimately about how you understand human nature, the problems humans deal with and their solutions. This implies the need to understand first the rules that govern you and then the rules that govern human beings and societies in general. Yes, it […]

On Being Wise – 1

Part 1 We are not sure how to define wisdom but we recognise it when we see it. It has a calming effect. It slows you down and takes you out of the race and your routine, out of your habitual and automatic thinking. It leads you to higher perspectives at which you are able […]

Abundance Mindset

 “We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are”. Each of us has a unique mindset through which we perceive the world. Its like a thought processor in the mind. This mindset is deep and automatic. Because it is a language which continuously learns and adjusts we have the power to […]

Positive thinking or Positive Psychology?

Learn the differences It is very common for people to confuse Positive Psychology with positive thinking. I don’t blame them. I believe it is the fault of those who chose to call the new field of research positive psychology. A very unscientific name, loaded with a value judgement that wrongly makes the impression as if […]

Friendship

Are you a good friend? We rarely talk about this subject yet, friendship is a great resource for our well-being.  The movie “Pride” is good example of how friendship strengthens us. Two groups of people, bound by their common experience of disadvantage during the 80’s in England, get together to support each other in their […]

Handling Marital Conflicts

Constructively handling a marital conflict is one of the most burning issues for couples in modern societal cultures. Equality in power and the growing separation of the family unit force partners to rely on each other more and share decision-making responsibilities across many aspects of life. Roles and rules are in constant negotiation and exploration. […]

Understanding marital conflicts

Constructively managing conflicts with your intimate partner can be the greatest challenge of a relationship. They can often shake the very foundation on which the relationship is built: trust. Getting it right is a strong indicator of a satisfying relationship. To get it wrong will mean that issues are not resolved and there is a […]

Gottman’s model for Flourishing Relationship

The art of making a relationship flourish has received significant media interest in recent years thanks to extensive research by world renowned relationship expert John Gottman. Gottman brought relationship into the lab and developed ingenious methods to assess thousands of couples. His findings are confronting to the traditional ways of thinking about how to make […]