Conflicts and the enemies within our Mind When you have a fight or disagreement with your partner, this is likely to upset you. The pain can be very intense. When this pain is expressed unconstructively it leaves you and your partner feeling injured and powerless. Partners will then often fall into a cycle of attack/defend …
When Trump calls certain aspects of reality “Fake News”, he knows something that we often refuse to acknowledge: what ultimately matters is not what really happened, but how you tell it. The power is not in the facts, but rather, with whomsoever controls the narrative. What makes us vulnerable to narratives? Our psyche is desperate …
On being wise We are not sure how to define wisdom but we recognise it when we see it. It has a calming effect. It slows you down and takes you out of the race,out of your normal routine, out of your habitual and automatic thinking. It leads you to higher perspectives with which you …
Self-acceptance is a major hallmark of well-being. It is a process of seeing and embracing unconditionally who you are regardless of your flaws and mistakes. You realize that in your core being – rather than in what you do – you are lovable as you are. Your worthiness of love doesn’t come into question just …
“We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are.” Each of us has a unique mindset through which we perceive the world. Its like a thought processor in the mind.This mindset is deep and automatic. Because it is a language which continuously learns and adjusts we have the power to re-shape …
Learn the differences It is very common for people to confuse Positive Psychology with positive thinking. I don’t blame them. I believe it is the fault of those who chose to call the new field of research positive psychology. A very unscientific name, loaded with a value judgement that wrongly makes the impression as if …
Are you a good friend? We rarely talk about this subject yet, friendship is a great resource for our well-being. The movie “Pride” is good example of how friendship strengthens us. Two groups of people, bound by their common experience of disadvantage during the 80’s in England, get together to support each other in their …
Constructively handling a marital conflict is one of the most burning issues for couples in modern societal cultures. Equality in power and the growing separation of the family unit force partners to rely on each other more and share decision-making responsibilities across many aspects of life. Roles and rules are in constant negotiation and exploration. …
Constructively managing conflicts with your intimate partner can be the greatest challenge of a relationship. They can often shake the very foundation on which the relationship is built: trust. Getting it right is a strong indicator of a satisfying relationship. To get it wrong will mean that issues are not resolved and there is a …
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