Counselling Brighton East
How I work
With over 30 years’ counseling experience, I foster warm, genuine and compassionate relationships with my clients. My many years of clinical experience have seen me develop a style of helping couples that is best described as ‘compassionate coaching‘: I facilitate a constructive conversation with the purpose of you gaining a deeper understanding of, and fostering compassion towards, each other. I do so with care, warmth, and gentleness to make you both feel accepted and understood.
I maintain the focus on making sure that we work towards your goals together. I regard it as my responsibility to make sure we are staying on track to reach your goals. When old patterns of communications invade our space I deal with them effectively.
The process of counseling is much like gardening. I help you cultivate a culture of relating to each other in ways that keep your relationship strong, satisfying, and resilient. In order to achieve this, we create a safe environment in which you feel more comfortable expressing your softer sides and your vulnerabilities. Instead of defensiveness and attacks, you learn to express your needs, feelings, and requests, in a more open and authentic way.
The upward spiral will consist of more care, understanding, and empathy. As your connection deepens, you are in a situation where you feel more secure and where your relationship flourishes.
From the field of Positive Psychology I have learned how to capitalise on strengths. Going beyond what doesn’t work well, we will explore possibilities and cultivate personal and relationship growth. You will learn how the ‘Masters’ – those who stays many years together – get their relationship to flourish.
I often share useful tips, strategies, knowledge and perspectives to help you develop you effective relationship skills. You will know they are effective because they will boost your ability to influence on your partner. You will be more likely to get a response to your needs.
My evidence-based tools draw upon Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), John Gottman’s work, Gestalt, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).